Don't Assume You Know

WARNING! Entering a rant zone......

 

There aren't too many times that I get offended about adoption-related issues.  I've had plenty of adoptive families that get up in arms about things that just don't bother me. I always try to remember that I was ignorant once about a lof of this too. However, =) this one thing gets me.....

*Don't assume you know my child's birth family story.......*

because you probably don't.  I have likely shared more details with family or fellow adoptive moms and dads, but then there are some things that are only for us and my children to know.

 

What is she talking about about, you ask?

It's the unspoken assumption (with leading questions) about why a birth mom chose to place (not 'give up') their child for adoption.

"Oh, she was too young?"

"Oh, she was promiscuous."

"Oh, she was messing around."

You know. Assumptions like those. Now I'll be the first to confess that those are normal thoughts to pop in your head, but please don't ask and please don't continue those thoughts because you just don't know.  There are SO many reasons that a birth mom chooses to place a child, but do we have to analzye why? Does it really matter why she did or how she got pregnant in the first place? Let's celebrate the fact that she was brave enough to choose LIFE, and not abortion.  Let's celebrate that she chose a FAMILY for that child.

 

So the next time you say something like the above, or give me that look like you are making an assumption about MY child's birth mom that is probably incorrect, don't be offended when MY momma claws come out on you.  That's my family you are talking about too.  We have been blessed by two beautiful birth moms that we love dearly, and they are our family now.  And you just don't go messing with my family=)

 

 

End rant.